PRESCRIBED BY THE DOCTOR: 4 WAYS TO TEACH YOURSELF MENTAL TOUGHNESS!

By Women Warriors Ambassador + Guest Blogger Dr. Lindsay Dellavalle

I Lindsay Dellavalle feel honored to be a Women Warrior Ambassador.  I hope to use this platform to inspire women to realize that they have it in themselves to overcome adversity. Working as a Family Physician, I get the opportunity to build relationships with many people. I hear about people’s struggles and victories on a daily basis.  Through people’s stories, you realize that no one in life is without adversity; however it is how you come through this that matters in the end. I too, unfortunately have faced some devastating things in life. I have had to navigate the struggles that come with a special needs child who suffers from seizures, cognitive impairments, and developmental delays. I also have witnessed my husband suffer from mental illness and PTSD after his deployment to Iraq which ultimately lead to his suicide. Believe me when I say that these things have caused me heartbreak and sleepless nights, but at the end of the day I still push forward to be the best mom and physician that I can be. The Army taught me a lot about Resilience, maybe better called “mental toughness” and I’d like to share some of my thoughts as to what that entails.

  1. Tomorrow is another day: Life does go on. Even when it seems that your world is falling apart. The sun rises tomorrow and you never know what beautiful gift will be bestowed upon you. You have no other option but to keep pushing and keep going. In my journey I realize my son’s disabilities have made me cherish life so much more. Although it can be a challenge to watch your child struggle, his ability to brighten a room is truly a gift.
  2. Be mindful but also get out of your own head: It is important to be in the moment. Allow yourself to feel the emotions of stress, pain, happiness. Realize that all these feelings are part of life and it is Ok to feel them even when they make you uncomfortable. There were many times after my husband’s passing that I wanted to not feel the pain, but I knew I needed to. But also it is important to not allow your emotions to get the best of you, be able to put them aside for a while. To allow yourself to get distracted. My best distraction was running. A chance to clear my head and not think or feel. Needless to say I ran a lot that first year and completed my first half marathon shortly thereafter. 
  3. Be Flexible: learn that you can’t control everything in life. Therefore focus on what you can control, which I believe most of the time, is your attitude about something. I have gotten to know two extraordinary families through this journey that have suffered the biggest tragedies you can imagine and turned them into something positive. The first family that has helped me tremendously, their son was KIA and now they have made a Charitable Foundation in his name to help other veterans in need, especially those suffering from PTSD. The second family, I have gotten the honor to know, lost a son to suicide and another son was KIA. They do public speaking engagements to bring awareness and help service members and veterans suffering from PTSD.
  4. Surround yourself with Supportive People: realize that you can’t do everything on your own. Build a network of like-minded positive people who empower you to be mentally and physically healthy. I am very blessed. I didn’t have to look too far. I am surrounded by family and friends that possess these qualities. My sisters, Ashley Jung and Paige Walker, the owners of Stella Valle, are some of the most hardworking, dedicated people I know. They truly embody what it is to be a Women Warrior!

Lindsay

Aka Dr. Dellavalle

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Priscilla Johnson

Thank you I needed yo read this…especially this morning….

Suzanne

I found so much strength in reading this and getting to know your emotions and feeling your strength develop especially after Chad’s death.
I too now hear the birds every morning and enjoy the beauty around me and have opened my heart to those around me. It has been a journey and thank you for taking it with me.
Suzanne du Verrier

Suzanna Challen

What a wonderful post. I am so glad I got to know you through Jessica. Sending my best to you, Lindsay and your beautiful children!

Shana Krant

You AMAZE me Lindsay! xoxo

Jennie

Your presence is a gift to everyone around you. You lead by example showcasing your mental toughness through your success in parenting, not sweating the small stuff, and your ability to spread joy. You’re an inspiration. I enjoyed reading your tips and look forward to sharing them with Stella and Nina!

Vivan

Lindsay first of all thank you for sharing your life story. You are a beautiful woman inside and out! True warrior! Reading your blog just makes me want to be a better person! ❤️❤️❤️

Di

Thank you for sharing your story. You are a strong women!! ????

Christy Ardoin

Lindsay, thank you for sharing your story of perseverance through the storm. I am so blessed to have the opportunity to represent the Women Warriors by Stella Valle. I really didn’t know what a blessing it was until I met your sister Paige at market and now your telling of your struggle. I AM BLESSED. Thank you for sharing. I love my soldiers.

Carol Graham

Lindsay, you are such a source of inspiration to everyone who meets you. Thank you for having the courage to share your story. I love your article with all these positive ways to live with courage, purpose and hope. You are truly the epitome of resilience in every way. I love this beautiful jewelry and most especially the way each piece symbolizes the best character traits we all aspire to. You and your sisters are incredible role models and truly make us all want to be Women Warriors!

KSM

LOVE YOU LJD!!❤

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